In the last week I have had to put up with three occasions
of men, strangers, making me feel uncomfortable. The first was a drunk man
sitting next to me on a train, initially he just asked if the train was going
to a particular stop. This led to him
trying to make conversation with me despite the fact I had my headphones
on. He told me I was pretty then tried
to create conversation all the while leaning further and further in. After a couple of minutes, as he was reaching
for my leg, I got up and pushed passed him to the next carriage. I was so angry that this strange man felt he
could just act like this, and I have to say that despite it was a busy train no
one else stepped in.
Other instances in the last week include a man, again a
complete stranger, grabbing my shoulder saying “oo steady love” on the train
when it wobbled slightly. If he’d saved
me from falling I might have accepted it, but he wasn’t, I was sitting down. The latest was something I encounter
frequently, “cheer up love”. I’m walking on my own in the rain; I’m not going
to walk around with a massive grin on my face just for you.
I’ve been getting increasingly riled over these instances
and coincidentally, as it would be hard to ignore, the sheer scale of
inequality between the sexes is getting a higher profile in the media. I’m not saying men don’t suffer from drunken
women trying to chat them up or older women making a comment
about a younger man. I just highly doubt it’s a weekly occurrence for the majority
of men.
Feminism is a big topic at the moment, from Elles Feminism
campaign #makethempay to all the debate regarding the music industry with you
know whose twerking and Lily Allens new song ‘Hard Out Here’. Whatever kind of
stand we make something needs to be done about the everyday sexism many women
receive. And no, shouting “Nice legs” out of a moving car at me IS NOT a
compliment. Apparently I’ll miss this when I’m older but I doubt it.
Feminism is considered by some as a bit of a dirty word and there is much debate
about it at the moment. I say I am a feminist because I believe all women
should have equal opportunities (and equal pay) to men – simple as that. And if they can stop commenting on my appearance when I'm walking down the street I'd appreciate that too. A date fairly recently told me it was a
woman’s DUTY to clean/cook/look after the house, whatever the woman’s income or career
path. Needless to say that didn’t go
much further.
I know I am only glazing over such big topics here, but
felt that a general comment was needed. Maybe if I get even more angst’y more
blog posts will follow… watch this space!